The BDSM Relationship Handbook, by Michael Makai

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Whether you’ve just discovered the BDSM lifestyle, or been a member of the lifestyle for decades, these BDSM tests can be fun, informative, and even enlightening. The tests featured here have been produced by BDSM author and lifestyle educator Michael Makai, the author of “Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook” and other non-fiction works about the D/s and BDSM culture.  ©2013 Michael Makai, All Rights Reserved


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The Dominant Test

What kind of Dominant are you?

dom-testThis test helps you to learn what kind of Dominant you are.  It assumes from the start that you are a Dominant of some sort, so anyone taking the test who isn’t a Dominant will get pretty meaningless results.  The descriptions of each of the ten Dominant categories are provided at the end of the test with your scores.  Each category is scored on a scale from 0 – 100.  It’s not only possible to score high in more than one category, but it is relatively common and to be expected.

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The Submissive Test

What Kind of Submissive Are You?

sub-testThis test helps you to learn what kind of submissive you are.  It assumes from the start that you are a submissive of some sort, so anyone taking the test who isn’t a submissive will get pretty meaningless results.  The descriptions of each of the eleven submissive categories are provided at the end of the test with your scores.  Each category is scored on a scale from 0 – 100.  It’s not only possible to score high in more than one category, but it is relatively common and to be expected.

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The BDSM Lifestyle Knowledge Test

How much do you really know about BDSM?

bdsm-testTest your knowledge of the D/s lifestyle and BDSM culture. All questions are multiple-choice. Choose the best answer. Each quiz consists of 25 randomly-selected questions from our database, so the quiz will be different in content and question order each time you take the test.

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The Warrior Princess Submissive Test

Are You a Warrior Princess Submissive?

wps-testEver get the feeling, when you read about all the “classic” categories of submissive, that there must be one missing? You know which one we’re talking about. The missing submissive is the one that is the wicked-smart, strong-willed, uber-competent, ultra-competitive, synergistic, switchy, crusader. She’s no one’s doormat, never a victim.

She is a kick-ass submissive for the 21st century. Think: Xena, the Warrior Princess, kneeling at the feet of Hercules.

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The Primal Test

Are You a Primal?

primal-testA Primal is (1) a person who trusts and acts upon his or her animal instincts;  (2) a role that is neither consistently dominant nor submissive but can be either depending upon the environment, situation and personal dynamic at work;  (3) a type of BDSM play that focuses on the animalistic aspects of relationships and sexuality.

Primals are a relatively new phenomenon in the BDSM culture; one that is still regarded with a great deal of curiosity by those who have long been content to categorize everyone in the D/s lifestyle as a Dominant, submissive, or switch.  There was just one little problem with that classification method, however.  It left an awful lot of people standing on the sidelines, wondering why they didn’t seem to fit neatly into any of those three categories.  Primalism is often associated with animal play, pet play or furries, and while it may share key characteristics with them, it stands apart from them due to its focus on instincts, perception, disdain for social conventions, and an agonizingly unpredictable D/s dynamic.  This all may seem a bit confusing to you until you actually get to know someone who is a Primal, or suddenly come to the realization that you happen to be one, yourself.  With that in mind, the best place to start may be by asking yourself the following questions:  Am I a Primal?  If I was, how would I know?  

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The Polyamory Test

How Much Do You Know About Polyamory?

poly-testIn the D/s lifestyle, polyamory is typically far more prevalent than in the general population for three simple reasons. First, a Dominant usually has far more discretion to do as he pleases than the typical non-Dominant outside of the D/s lifestyle. Second, the D/s lifestyle tends to attract people who are inherently willing to swim against the tide of social conventions. If this were not so, they wouldn’t be in the lifestyle in the first place. Third, many of the people in the D/s lifestyle participate in group activities within their local BDSM organizations, and sometimes develop close relationships with the playmates they meet there. D/s folk are no more or less likely than anyone else to be sexual swingers, however the cultivation of BDSM friendships with common kinks makes polyamory a more likely scenario. Let us not forget, however, that just because polyamory is relatively common in the D/s lifestyle doesn’t mean that people in the lifestyle are any better at it than anyone else. It is a profoundly difficult thing to be successfully polyamorous in any relationship, D/s or otherwise.

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The Little Test

Are you a “Little?”


little-test-iconA Little is a person who embraces his or her inner child and rejoices in it. Being a Little isn’t necessarily about kink, or sex, or BDSM “age play.” At its core, being a Little isn’t about pretending to be something or someone you are not, it’s about exposing and enjoying the person you are at your very core.  It isn’t a decision you make, or a lifestyle you pursue. It’s simply a matter of who you are, whether you like it, or not.  As we mature, we are often told to “act our age” or to stop behaving like a child. Eventually, we often start believing that there is something innately wrong with expressing our child-like natures, and learn to repress them.  Littles, however, never really let go of that innocence and wonderment that makes them special to Daddy Doms and Mommy Dommes everywhere. By the way, Littles can be male or female.

Take the test to see how you score. Maybe you’ll learn something about yourself.

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